Episode 263 :: Jay :: Transitioning in Community

| November 20, 2016 | 2 Comments

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Jay joins us to speak about being trans in dharma community.

There is a seeming disparity between the Buddhist concepts of not self, and being comfortable in one’s identity. We sometimes hear the criticism of meditation groups for people of color or for those of particular orientations that they reify ideas of self, rather than disassembling them. Or we could look at this as compassionately giving support to our fellow dharma practitioners in the way that best supports their journey, their safety, and creates the conditions for the growing of wisdom.

Jay is a consultant, coach, and mindfulness facilitator. His work focuses on using Buddhist principles to support individuals as they seek to reduce suffering in their lives and find their own meaningful path. Jay came to Buddhist practice in 2009 and completed Meditation Instructor and Group Facilitator training with Noah Levine at Against the Stream Buddhist Meditation Society in 2011. He is particularly interested in working with people in recovery and members of the LGBTQ community.

So, sit back, relax, and have a nice lavender mint tea.

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Category: The Secular Buddhist Podcast

Ted Meissner

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Ted Meissner is the host of the podcast Present Moment: Mindfulness Practice and Science. He has been a meditator since the early 90’s, has been interviewed for Books and Ideas, Mindful Lives, and The Whole Leader podcasts, spoken about mindfulness with various groups including Harvard Humanist Hub, and has written for Elephant Journal and The International Journal of Whole Person Care. He is the Executive Director of the Secular Buddhist Association, host of the SBA’s official podcast The Secular Buddhist, and is on the Advisory Board for the Spiritual Naturalist Society. Ted’s background is in the Zen and Theravada traditions, he is a regular speaker on interfaith panel discussions, and is interested in examining the evolution of contemplative practice in contemporary culture. Ted teaches Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) at the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care & Society, where he is the Manager of Online Programming and Community Development.

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  1. Jennifer Hawkins Jennifer Hawkins says:

    I didn’t know Ted had such an interview lined up. I’m really glad I got to listen to this. Jay made me realize one or two things that I didn’t realize before – specifically how different things like a body scan or similar meditation might be for a trans person. I’m glad he found peace and acceptance in his communities and even from his partner (vis-a-vis transition). The focus on pronouns still spikes my anxiety though. If I know a person during or after transition, there’s no issue. But if I knew them before, then every once in a while I might mentally slip into the old gender because it’s been habituated in my mind. And while I put a lot of effort into correct gendering… I just get so anxious over a mistake caused by habit and not by slighting (not that it’s happened more than once that I can remember, but that once was harrowing enough). It be kind of interesting to have a guided meditation that focused on replacing that habit with a habit reflective of the correct gender. (Basically, mentally practicing the right gender until it’s habit.)

    It’s also good to hear about cases where someone isn’t trans, so much as they aren’t “traditionally” masculine or feminine as society defines it. That’s something I’ve thought about but couldn’t express. Just so much learned. Thank you for taking the time to teach it, Jay!

  2. Michael Finley Michael Finley says:

    Thanks for this.

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