Thanks to both of you.
I kind of agree. I find it logical
that a Monk" that has to live on
gifts from the lay population has
to tone down any lust for to have
family life and thus need to not
cling to that drive within him
or her self ?
Haha they sometimes drive professional
athletes to not make sex before an important
match? Too much of a distraction. Soldiers
they treat that way too.
There are some or many similarities with
being a hired soldier and a Buddhist.
You shave off hair and change to a uniform
and you change name and you have a hierarchy
and a teacher and you are not supposed to be
an individual anymore. No family life either.
You get taught the "behavior code" of the group.
Some do criticize Military for their inhuman way
they treat the new soldiers for to take away their
individuality. That which makes them a human and
instead they practice will make them into a killing
machine that follow orders. To never disobey or to
question the truth of an order.
That is also something I tend to see in Buddhism.
I spent rather long time using google to find
ex-buddhist forum where ex-buddhists shared their
views on Buddhism and I failed to find one such
forum at all. While there do exists for Christians.
My naive take is that the indoctrination that
one get as a Buddhist is so strong that none
can be an ex-buddhist. Once in your have no
way out of Buddhism. Sure one can stop to do
practice and allow long hair and some individuality
but you forever bound to be loyal to the Dharma?
I could find anti-buddhist that had other -ism
like strong dogmatic Communist views and they
saw Tibet Buddhism as a political movement.
But they where not ex-buddhist AFAIK. They may
have been born in a Buddhist traditional family
but they had not identified with Buddhism as
what many Western Buddhists do.
I guess I should look for ex-stoicists too.
or ex-post-modernists. I doubt such exists.
I don't know if inhuman is the best word for it.
But a kind of identity that is so strong that
one can never have another identity after it?
Sorry that sounds not logical but that is how
it looks to me when one talks to those that
have stopped doing the practice. They have no way
to talk about it like a normal human being.
It is an odd experience and kind of frightening.