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Author Topic: Difficulty settling down to meditate when under pressure
Candol
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Post Difficulty settling down to meditate when under pressure
on: July 12, 2012, 06:28
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Are you able to meditate when you are stressed and feeling highly strung. When you are feeling anxious. Tension and all that sort of thing.

Are you sure? Or has it been so long since you felt that way that you can't even remember with any accuracy?

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Post Re: Difficulty settling down to meditate when under pressure
on: July 12, 2012, 09:14
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Candol, excellent question!

This is often a point of confusion for folks. The purpose of meditation is not to create warm, fuzzy feelings, or to be calm. The purpose is to become mindful of what we are experiencing in the moment and to see the mechanisms at work.

So if we are nervous, twitchy, angry, stressed out, that is the perfect time to see to observe what stress is, what underlies it, what happens if one focuses on the bodily feeling of stress, and what happens if one focuses on the mental aspects of stress.

I like looking at difficult feelings like stress as perfect lab subjects. If we take a curious interest in those events, then we can learn much about them.

The challenge, of course, is not getting caught up in the stories our minds create, getting on the marry-go-round of thinking that tugs you out of mindfulness. But if you can give yourself wiggle room, step back just a bit, you can see what a trouble-maker the mind likes to be.

If we are calm and nothing is really going on at the moment, and we sit and we feel peaceful, that's all well and great. But we learn the most when we take the opportunity to sit during difficult times, when we are stressed, when we are upset or angry. That is when the selfing process is at it's highest and you can observe those processes and see how it creates that strong sense of self that causes us so much suffering!

Even more fascinating is when you can see under the self, and see the events of DA as Linda described so well in her series.

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Post Re: Difficulty settling down to meditate when under pressure
on: July 12, 2012, 09:34
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Candol, I think times of anxiousness, stress and monkey mind are very good times to practice! If you are noticing that these things are going on in your mind and manifesting in your body, you're already pausing and stepping back -- you have the chance to see that these are just feelings and thoughts, and they don't have to carry you along with them. And you have the chance to approach these thoughts and sensations with curiosity and friendliness, perhaps gently inviting your body and mind to relax. When I have these feelings, I like to breathe deeply into them, to feel right into the sensations or the thought energy on the in-breath. Then on the out-breath, I try to release into a more spacious sense of mind -- the feeling of my whole body sitting, the sounds in the room, perhaps the blue of the sky out the window. On the in-breath, fully noticing and exploring the distressing sensations and thoughts -- releasing them on the out-breath, perceiving that your thoughts and sensations are just temporary manifestations floating in your much larger awareness. And just knowing that any time you practice, even if you feel stressful or scattered, you're showing yourself kindness and compassion -- and you deserve it!

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Post Re: Difficulty settling down to meditate when under pressure
on: July 18, 2012, 02:50
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I should not derail this thread but I come to think of such things as ADD/ADHD and that all of us can have different levels of such during the day and over the weeks and through our life if in personal crisis and such that distracts us.

My severe ADHD makes it impossible for me to meditate at all????
Maybe not totally or absolutely impossible but 50 years of failure does make it seem that way.

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Post Re: Difficulty settling down to meditate when under pressure
on: July 18, 2012, 06:47
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When the house gets cold, a thermostat tells the house's heating system to make more heat. When I'm stressed, I know it's time to be more mindful.

Of course, there are other things that help with stress. We were talking about tai chi recently. I said I was learning the basic moves with You Tube videos. I may have mentioned a study in which tai chi helped people with ADHD. NaturalEntrust, this might interest you.

http://www.worldtaichiday.org/Medical_Research_On_Tai_Chi_Qigong/add_adhd.html

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Post Re: Difficulty settling down to meditate when under pressure
on: July 18, 2012, 07:46
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Tom such is interesting. Thanks for the link.
Music helps too. The brain lock on to the melody and rhythm and get less distracted that way. A kind of meditation or external help to concentrate.

Candol what is your experience of tai chi movements or dancing to meditative music?

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