’s face it, practice requires continual attention,  intention, meditation time, and much of it is not easy. Learning about Buddhism is also challenging, especially since most books are not written for a secular viewpoint. Of course, that is why we created the SBA site, to provide you with information on secular Buddhism, and to make it possible for you to talk with others on various topics of interest.

As this community grows, it’s very encouraging for all of is. We get more information, meet a lot of new people through vibrant conversations, and find some of the support we need.

Having a large community to turn to is wonderful. But it can also seem a little intimidating, and all of the discussions are public facing. There may be topics we don’t feel comfortable bringing up, and perhaps there are only a few people we’d like to share certain issues with. To really dig into our practice and get down to the nitty-gritty, we need a sangha (community) and closer dharma buddies.

Here on SBA, you can talk with others through Comments to articles or podcasts, or you can chat and bring up topics of your own in the Discussion forums, and you can attend Practice Circle for a regular virtual sangha where you actually see people!

All of this is great, but something I have found profoundly helpful in developing my practice was having a few very close dharma buddies. When I was in Second Life, I met Linda Blanchard, Mark Knicklebine, Jan Ford, Ted Meissner, and a few others. These were people I saw only online in the beginning, as their avatars. But over the years, we exchanged personal information. These dharma buddies were crucial to my practice. I could talk to them about issues of my practice or life in private, topics I just didn’t want to air publicly in Second Life or on Facebook.

It occurred to me that the discussions we’re having here are SBA are helpful and wonderful, but some of you may need more, a way of getting closer to certain SBA members without making your emails public, or giving out personal information before you are ready. So, I added a feature to the site that you can use if you need it, or ignore if you don’t.

Every one who is registered on this site now has a Private Message box. You can send any other member a Private Message. I’m  hoping this will enable some of you to create closer bonds with dharma buddies who can support your practice on a more personal level. Your email remains private, unless you choose to give it to someone.

MessageYou can get to your Message box in several ways:

  • Login to the site
  • Go to your Profile by click on your name up in the right corner
  • In the left navigation from within Profile, click Messages
  • That opens to Inbox, Outbox, Send
  • Also, if you have messages, you’ll see an alert near the main Login box in the right navigation of the site

If you want to send someone a private message, click on Send. Then where it says To begin typing the username of the person you want to send a message. It should auto-fill for you. When they get the message, they can respond. All your messages are private. You get 20 messages per box, so be sure to delete them when you no longer delete them so the Inbox doesn’t fill up. If someone does not respond, it could be they don’t feel comfortable with private messages. Please respect that.

You can practice on me if you feel unsure. I’m happy to respond and help you out if you need it.

If none of this appeals to you, there is nothing for you to do. Simply ignore the feature. But I hope some of you will take the time to send your favorite people messages.

It was through a similar private message system that I learned Jan Ford was in the same state as I was. We exchanged emails, and Facebook Friends, and then I drove to Santa Barbara from time to time to visit with him in person. That was one of the most valuable friendships I’ve had in my life, and to my dharma practice. I hope you’ll meet dharma buddies who you become such close friends with.

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  1. Mark Knickelbine on February 26, 2013 at 8:24 am

    Thank you, dharma director buddy! This is a great idea and I hope it encourages many new friendships here!

  2. MiyoWratten on February 26, 2013 at 8:09 pm

    Thanks for all you do Dana! This is a cool feature that I hope I get to use soon!

  3. Judy-M on April 23, 2014 at 12:45 am

    Thanks Dana – I appreciate this community – and you are certainly doing service to it by utilizing your IT knowledge and your Buddhist knowledge – would be nice to network

  4. Jennifer Hawkins on April 24, 2014 at 5:55 pm

    Hi Judy-M

    I keep seeing your posts. I just got started too if you wanted to talk about anything.

    • Judy-M on April 25, 2014 at 11:25 am

      Jennifer – thanks for your remarks – I am new to this – and it is exciting – but also confusing and scary – so I would love to network – you can g/mail me personally @ if you want

  5. Robert Schenck on April 25, 2014 at 10:31 am

    Sounds good.

  6. Jennifer Hawkins on April 26, 2014 at 11:23 am


    Ok, don’t be creeped out, but I was curious if you were in the Coursera Buddhism and Modern Psychology class and figured out through Facebook that you were, lol. (It wasn’t hard, so I’m not a creepy Facebook stalker, lol)I’m the Jennifer Hawkins from Office Hours. Also, Mark Knickelbine (who posts a lot of the meditation stuff on here and is in the Practice and Social Circles) has a twin brother who responds in the Ask a Buddhist thread a lot. His name is Scott Knickelbine. LoL

    Anyways, I could so use some help facing the final paper (if you are planning on doing it). I have some illnesses that can make it hard for me to concentrate and deal with stress (etc). So looking at those questions is like “ahh.” I only did the midterm because my forum post happened to answer the question and another Facebook and class friend (Alec Zabeleta) encouraged me, but I don’t know if he’s doing the final. Anyways, I’m babbling, but you can ask me anything you want on here or Facebook or in the class forums (my latest one is in week 6 under: “GG” Professor – Let’s Take These Course Topics to the Next Level.) This is honestly kind of cool.

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